March 13, 2019
Not A Level Playing Field
To get their kids into choice colleges, prominent lawyers, business people, and Hollywood stars paid millions of dollars for bribes, bogus exam scores, and fake athletic achievements.
Uh, let's give Bobby just a little extra advantage and he'll do just fine...
But while some people pretend to be so shocked that this is going on, the truth is that we all know that it's definitely not a level playing field.
All I have to do is drive by the local Mansions in Potomac, Bethesda or Chevy Chase, Maryland or in Northern Virginia and see the extravagant homes, schools, shopping, and neighborhoods, and you know there are the forever haves and the have nots.
As the old adage goes, "Money makes money!"
If you are born with a silver spoon in your mouth in the U.S., the chances are you will stay that way.
Having the assets, information, connections, and opportunities seems to bode quite well for those who leverage it.
The worst part is that those who have these things often really believe that they are better or more deserving than others.
Can you see the nose elevated and those snooty eyes staring down on you?
Wealthy parents cheating the system and paying off others to get their kids into the best schools--a surprise?
Not a chance.
What the real surprise here is...that this time, they got caught. ;-)
(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)
September 1, 2016
Sh*t Rolls Downhill
Sh*t Rolls Downhill
January 16, 2016
Wanting It Too Much
Money, honor, success, piety, large families, health, beauty, popularity, big houses, fancy cars, exciting vacations, and so on.
Some people even dream of technology and big data, and wanting to either come up with "the next big thing" or simply have all the answers to everything.
In the election session now, Saturday Night Live (SNL) frequently makes fun of some candidates at how much they desperately want to be president.
I wonder though between the connection of wanting something so much and actually getting it.
Does wanting it...led you to actually get it.
OR
Perhaps, it actually can push it further away.
One women who I was talking with told me that the more you want something, the less likely you are to get it, period.
You want it too much (you're greedy, narcissistic, or think you are somehow ultimately deserving and the world just owes it to you)!
The universe just won't let you have it when you are desperate for it.
You have to be ready for it...cool with it...and most importantly, at peace with yourself, and then you can get where you want to be.
There is something that rings so true about that.
Desperation and success do not make good bedfellows.
In fact, the more you know somebody wants something, isn't that just such a huge turn-off (you start questioning their motives and everything) and in a way you want to recoil and not give it to them.
Sure, knowing what you want helps.
Hard work helps.
But being okay with whatever G-d decides for you is critical.
You can't go with your head through the door!
G-d will either open or close the path to you...and all the kings horses and all the kings men won't make the difference in the end. ;-)
(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)
Wanting It Too Much
April 30, 2015
Morning Entertainment DC
He was playing and this little dog in the shopping cart behind him was jumping around dancing.
Sometimes I wonder as I get older:
- Will I remember all these scenes from my day-to-day life?
- Will they seem real or more like a surreal fantasy?
- Will I feel that I stopped "to smell the roses" or simply hurried on by doing all my things?
In each person a soul--but do we see the spirit or just the bodily facade--somebody homeless trying to get by, a simple distraction, street entertainment, fleeting fears of mental illness or other dangers, just an annoyance maybe, or a handout for someone in need.
Ever wonder who are you and why are you deserving (or not) to have the fancy suit, tie, shoes, and bag, nice haricut, and are going to a cushy job and fat paycheck, while someone else is standing on the corner playing the banjo? ;-)
(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)
Morning Entertainment DC
August 30, 2013
Pleasure At Pain
The Wall Street Journal (20 August 2013) reviews the book, The Joy of Pain, on this topic.
Schadenfreude is the German word for feeling pleasure at the calamity of others.
And we see people laugh, point, and otherwise gloat when others are hurting physically, emotionally, financially, and so on.
When they fail and you succeed, you feel strong, powerful, self-confidant, and that you were right--and they were wrong!
Feelings of pleasure at other people's pain is partially evolutionary--survival of the fittest.
It is also a function of our personal greed and competitiveness--where we measure ourselves not by how well we are doing, but rather relative to how others around us are faring.
So for example, we may be rich and have everything we need, but if someone else has even a little more than us, we still are left feeling lacking inside.
Thus, we envy others' good fortune and take pleasure in their misfortune.
In a sense, our success is only complete when we feel that we have surpassed everyone else, like in a sport competition--there is only one ultimate winner and world champion.
So when we see the competition stumble, falter, and go down, our hands go up with the stroke of the win!
Anyway, we deserve to win and they deserve to lose--so justice is served and that makes us feel just dandy.
How about a different way--we work together to expand the living standard for all, and we feel genuinely glad for others' success and real empathy for their pain, and they too for us--and we go beyond our pure humanity to something more angelic. ;-)
(Source Photo: here with attribution for Lukas Vermeer)
Pleasure At Pain
November 23, 2011
Where The Biggest Nuts Rise To The Top
According to an article in Mental Floss (November/December 2011) engineers at the Advanced Dynamics Laboratory in Australia in 1996 researched how to mitigate The Muesli Effect, which describes the paradox of how, for example, cereral in boxes tend to separate with the smaller stuff lingering on the bottom and the large chunks rising to the top. This is the opposite of what you'd expect in terms of the larger, heavier pieices falling to the bottom--but they don't.
This is also known as The Brazil Nuts Effect, because the largest nuts (the Brazil Nuts) can rise to the top. While in physics, this may be good, in leadership it is not.
With leadership, the Muesli Effect can led to situations where cut-throat, unethical, workplace operators push their way to the top, on the backs of the masses of hardworking individuals. Unfortunately, these workplace "bullies," may stop at nothing to get ahead, whether it means manipulating the system through nepotism, favoritism, outright descrimination, or political shinanigans. They may lie, steal, kiss up, or kick down shamelessly disparaging and marginalizing coworkers and staff--solidying their position and personal gain, which unfortunately comes at expense of the organization and it's true mission.
Some really do deserve their fortune by being smarter, more talented, innovative, or hardworking. In other cases, you have those who take unjustifiably and ridiculously disproportionately at the expense of the others (hence the type of movements such as 99% or Occupy currently underway). This corruption of leadership begs the question who have they "brown-nosed," what various schemes (Ponzi or otherwise) have they been running, how many workers have they exploited, suppliers squeezed, partners shafted, and customers and investors have they taken advantage of.
Countless such ingenious leaders (both corporate and individual) rise by being the organizations false prophets" and taking advantage of the "little guy"--some examples whether from Enron, WorldCom, HealthSouth, Tyco, MF Global, and Bernie Madoff are just a few that come to mind. These and other examples can be found as well in government, non-profit, as well as educational institutions.
Interestingly, the Museli Effect occurs when you shake a box vertically. However, if you rock it side-to-side, then you reverse the effect and larger and heavier pieces of chaff fall to the bottom letting the precious kernels rise to the top.
This is similar to organizations, where if you focus on working horizontally across your organization and marketplace--on who you serve, your partners, suppliers, investors, and customers in terms of breaking down barriers, building bridges, and solving customer problems--then the real gems of leadership have the opportunity to shine and rise.
In the age of social networking, information sharing, collaboration, and transparency, the reverse Muesli Effect can help organizations succeed. It is time to stop promoting those leaders who build empires by shaking the organization up and down in silos that are self-serving, and instead move to rewarding those that break down stovepipes to solve problems and add real value.
(Source Photo: here)
Where The Biggest Nuts Rise To The Top