November 30, 2017
@Sawgrass Mills Mall
Thought these alligators were pretty cute at Sawgrass Mills in Sunrise, Florida.
Sawgrass with over 300 stores and outlets is the 10th largest mall in America.
And much of it is very upscale--apparently, the economy is very good for some people.
By the time, we got out of there, my head was spinning with sampling the stores and merchandise.
It was a delightful retreat to pass some nice outdoor eateries by the Colonnade with these creative and colorful alligators.
Remember most of this place was built on Everglades swamp, so there are plenty of real alligators to go around.
My favorites from these:
#4 - Forever Glades
#7 - The colorful blue, pink, and orange gator.
#9 - Relax and Rejoice
What are yours?
Not sure, why I took #1--the watermelon alligator--in the other direction, but it adds effect and I hope you enjoyed these. ;-)
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November 29, 2017
Dysfunction Society
So the world is continuing to go nuts--and it's like everyone is behaving like Negan from The Walking Dead!
North Korea has achieved ICBM capability with a missile launch yesterday to 2,800 miles altitude—11 times higher than the International Space Station—giving Axis of Evil, North Korea the ability to now hit Washington, D.C.!
At the same time, a career civil servant tries to pull a fast one on the Trump Administration—challenging the President’s right to appoint an Acting Director over the Consumer Finance Protection Bureau, which is part of the Executive Branch of government—and hoping that the Senate then won’t confirm Trump’s new appointee for Director, all of which would leave her in charge of CFPB for the next 3 years! Of course, the courts don’t see it her way, but as the Wall Street Journal noted her coup attempt is definitely something to take note of in democratic, America.
In the background, the Democrats and Republicans continue to beat each other silly and senseless, and not only with stalled legislation on almost every front from Healthcare to Immigration, but now minority leaders Schumer and Pelosi are even refusing to meet with the President over enacting a government budget leading us to another looming government shutdown in December…we can’t seem to keep the government functional or even running for the most powerful nation on Earth.
Finally, Bitcoin—an artificial computer-generated currency, advanced 1,000-fold this year to hit $10,000! Talking about another financial bubble reminiscent of the manic investment in tulips in the 17th century. What’s the value of Bitcoin or sunflowers? Whatever you want it to be! It’s not about the technology, which may be great, but rather the phony valuing of cryptocurrency, which few understand, and we all know how these bubbles end.
So overall, we have national security, the administration of our government, and economic stability all in grossly abnormal territory.
When things get this crazy, eventually you can be sure that something will first start to crack and then potentialy really break, and when it does, will we see more Negan with his brain-bashing baseball bat, Lucille? ;-)
(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)
North Korea has achieved ICBM capability with a missile launch yesterday to 2,800 miles altitude—11 times higher than the International Space Station—giving Axis of Evil, North Korea the ability to now hit Washington, D.C.!
At the same time, a career civil servant tries to pull a fast one on the Trump Administration—challenging the President’s right to appoint an Acting Director over the Consumer Finance Protection Bureau, which is part of the Executive Branch of government—and hoping that the Senate then won’t confirm Trump’s new appointee for Director, all of which would leave her in charge of CFPB for the next 3 years! Of course, the courts don’t see it her way, but as the Wall Street Journal noted her coup attempt is definitely something to take note of in democratic, America.
In the background, the Democrats and Republicans continue to beat each other silly and senseless, and not only with stalled legislation on almost every front from Healthcare to Immigration, but now minority leaders Schumer and Pelosi are even refusing to meet with the President over enacting a government budget leading us to another looming government shutdown in December…we can’t seem to keep the government functional or even running for the most powerful nation on Earth.
Finally, Bitcoin—an artificial computer-generated currency, advanced 1,000-fold this year to hit $10,000! Talking about another financial bubble reminiscent of the manic investment in tulips in the 17th century. What’s the value of Bitcoin or sunflowers? Whatever you want it to be! It’s not about the technology, which may be great, but rather the phony valuing of cryptocurrency, which few understand, and we all know how these bubbles end.
So overall, we have national security, the administration of our government, and economic stability all in grossly abnormal territory.
When things get this crazy, eventually you can be sure that something will first start to crack and then potentialy really break, and when it does, will we see more Negan with his brain-bashing baseball bat, Lucille? ;-)
(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)
Dysfunction Society
November 28, 2017
Turkish Lights
We had a delicious lunch at L'Chaim Asian Cuisine and Steak House--the honey chicken was to die for--OMG, it was like candy!
Afterwards, we walked about the shopping strip there and came across this store with these amazing lights.
It was a hookah (not hookers!) store which I am completely not interested in, having never smoked a cigarette or anything my entire life--true!
But these light were gorgeous.
I took these pictures and was even tempted to buy one--loved the colors and happiness of them.
Held off for now, too many nice things, especially since we then followed up with a day trip to Sawgrass Mills today--what an unbelievably huge shopping and outlet mall.
I know it must definitely be time to head home soon, because the shopping experience down here is wearing me down--just kidding, but it's definitely a paradise not only for the beach, but for the shopping fun as well. ;-)
(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)
Turkish Lights
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November 27, 2017
Technology Forecast 2018
Here are Andy Blumenthal's technology forecast and priorities for 2018.
1. Medical Computing - Continue the significant progress and solve the great illnesses of Cancer, Parkinson's, ALS, Alzheimers, and so many other horrible and debilitating diseases. Along with longevity, we need to alleviate human suffering and create a higher quality of living for all people.
2. Environmental Computing - Develop more and better clean technologies that can eliminate the Great Plastic Garbage Patch and other heart-breaking garbage dumps and environmental disasters around the world--clean up, breakdown, recycle, and create a more sustainable and beautiful planet for everyone to enjoy.
3. Quantum Computing - Achieve the ultimate processing power and speed of quantum computing to enable us to solve the greatest of mankind's problems including WMD, and cyber security threats as well as the overcome the transportation and colonization challenges to reach, explore, and settle the depths of outer space.
Technology Forecast 2018
Motivation, Hard Work, and Blessings
So I am incredibly impressed at how talented so many people are.
And I'll tell you, people are motivated to get ahead and they are working hard to do it.
I took Lyft to a couple of destinations down here in Florida.
Two drivers that I had just yesterday were both from relatively poor backgrounds in Jamaica.
And both were incredible in what they've been able to accomplish for themselves.
One was a senior communications technologist with a large cable company.
Another was a pretty impressive and successful Reggae music star.
Both had come to this country and made amazing lives for themselves.
In meeting these incredible people, I learned that everyone is driving Uber and Lyft now-a-days. :)
Both were driving as they told me just to keep busy on their days off--because they "hate being bored!"
More importantly, I learned that despite whatever background, hardships, or adversity you come from or have experienced, you can make it in your own way!
Motivation and hard work coupled with mercy and blessings from, and faith in the Almighty Above are an incredible combination that can propel people towards incredible levels of success in life that maybe many would've never even really dreamed of.
There is no easy road--just one filled with trying your best, plenty of obstacles, stumbles, and falls, and then picking yourself up and trying again and again until hopefully and with G-d's help you break the bonds and chains keeping you from your amazing levels of potential and contribution to this world. ;-)
(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)
Motivation, Hard Work, and Blessings
November 26, 2017
You Are The Working Class
So I like to speak with people about their lives.
Today at breakfast, there was a gentlemen working the egg bar making omelettes for people.
Recognizing him, I said "You've been here a number of years?"
He responds, "Yeah, but I want to leave here!"
I was sort of taken aback at his bluntness, and inquired further, "Why, is everything okay?"
He goes, "Not really. They'll only give me work 6 to 7 hours a day, and I can't make a living on 32 hours a week!"
I asked innocently, "Do you have a second job or something?"
He says, "No, this is it," and proceeded to make the next person's omelette.
Feeling sort of shitty bad for him...
Another lady who works the tables says to us: "I won't be seeing you."
I ask, "Why--are you off the next few days?"
She says, "No, I don't come back until next Saturday--I only work the weekends here, and somewhere else on weekdays."
Wondering about this, I say: "So you work 7 days a week?"
She answers, "Yes, year-round!"
After we said goodbye until next time, I looked at my wife grimacing that this women has to work 7 days a week, 365 days a year, just to earn a basic living.
I'll tell you the system is broken.
Shareholders and corporate chieftains squeeze profits and earnings per share out of their companies while the workers can barely get by.
The workers are not part of the companies they labor for--they are merely hired hands who will be replaced in a moment by another minimum wage worker if they but open their mouths to protest one word.
Slavery did not end in building the Great Pyramids of Egypt or in the plantations of the South--the average worker is still just a slave.
Employee engagement and development and "Human Capital" are terms organizations use to make themselves and their workers believe that there is real caring and unity going on.
But we know the truth by how people are treated with harshness, disrespect, disdain, and even abuse--sexual and otherwise!
Yeah, are you really valued or are you a wage slave showered with empty platitudes of unity and caring.
Real leadership is genuine compassion, empathy, and helping people both inside and outside the organization--not just a guise, disguise, mask for making just another dollar cracking the whip on the backs of the underclass.
All people are important.
All people deserve a living wage.
All people are entitled to work with dignity and respect.
All people need to be apart of a system that is fair and equitable.
Care for your brothers and sisters for one day you will be called before them in the court of Heaven and they will speak the final truth to power. ;-)
(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)
Today at breakfast, there was a gentlemen working the egg bar making omelettes for people.
Recognizing him, I said "You've been here a number of years?"
He responds, "Yeah, but I want to leave here!"
I was sort of taken aback at his bluntness, and inquired further, "Why, is everything okay?"
He goes, "Not really. They'll only give me work 6 to 7 hours a day, and I can't make a living on 32 hours a week!"
I asked innocently, "Do you have a second job or something?"
He says, "No, this is it," and proceeded to make the next person's omelette.
Feeling sort of shitty bad for him...
Another lady who works the tables says to us: "I won't be seeing you."
I ask, "Why--are you off the next few days?"
She says, "No, I don't come back until next Saturday--I only work the weekends here, and somewhere else on weekdays."
Wondering about this, I say: "So you work 7 days a week?"
She answers, "Yes, year-round!"
After we said goodbye until next time, I looked at my wife grimacing that this women has to work 7 days a week, 365 days a year, just to earn a basic living.
I'll tell you the system is broken.
Shareholders and corporate chieftains squeeze profits and earnings per share out of their companies while the workers can barely get by.
The workers are not part of the companies they labor for--they are merely hired hands who will be replaced in a moment by another minimum wage worker if they but open their mouths to protest one word.
Slavery did not end in building the Great Pyramids of Egypt or in the plantations of the South--the average worker is still just a slave.
Employee engagement and development and "Human Capital" are terms organizations use to make themselves and their workers believe that there is real caring and unity going on.
But we know the truth by how people are treated with harshness, disrespect, disdain, and even abuse--sexual and otherwise!
Yeah, are you really valued or are you a wage slave showered with empty platitudes of unity and caring.
Real leadership is genuine compassion, empathy, and helping people both inside and outside the organization--not just a guise, disguise, mask for making just another dollar cracking the whip on the backs of the underclass.
All people are important.
All people deserve a living wage.
All people are entitled to work with dignity and respect.
All people need to be apart of a system that is fair and equitable.
Care for your brothers and sisters for one day you will be called before them in the court of Heaven and they will speak the final truth to power. ;-)
(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)
You Are The Working Class
November 25, 2017
I Drive The Tractor
Thank you so much to Rabbi Schneur Kaplan for his wonderful speech today in Downtown Jewish Center Chabad synagogue, Fort Lauderdale.
He told the story about the boy who grew up in Israel as a chasid, but later left chasidism to work the land--he drove a tractor!
Years later, the young man rediscovers his religion and goes back to yeshiva to study, and he is excellent and surpasses many of his peers.
Eventually, he ends up in a one-on-one with the Rebbe--and he waits with baited breath for what the great Rebbe will tell him that will guide his life--will he become a great scholar, Rabbi, shaliach, or head of a Yeshiva.
Then the Rebbe speaks, and says:
The young man is shocked and goes back to studying Torah with even more determination and harder than ever.
Once again, he comes before the Rebbe, and he is anticipating what he will say.
Again, the Rebbe looks deep into his soul and says:
Sure enough, the man now understanding that he has to meet his particular fate head on, goes back to working the Holy Land and driving the tractor.
But in so doing he is able to do outreach to tens of thousands of people who otherwise would have never had the opportunity to be brought close to Hashem through Chasidism.
The message was that we are not all destined to be clones, robots, or do the same thing in life.
The Torah is our guide to serve Hashem and do what is right.
But each of us has our own mission in serving Him and we can achieve greatness and Holiness even when we drive a tractor or do whatever we do.
I am not a Rabbi, but in my own way, I try to raise my family--be a good husband, father, and prior a good son--and also to serve with integrity and a good example in my professional and educational endeavors.
It's okay that I'm not a Chabad Rabbi doing outreach--that's not me--although I did meet someone today from my elementary school, Manhattan Day School, that did become just that and we had a nice kiddish lunch with him and caught up together after services.
I am me--and I am okay with me.
I don't have to be someone else--anyone else.
I can do good being me--and that is what I will try to do with each and every breath of every day.
Whether I drive a tractor (or this cool VW van with a big smiley face), we all serve our Maker. ;-)
(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)
He told the story about the boy who grew up in Israel as a chasid, but later left chasidism to work the land--he drove a tractor!
Years later, the young man rediscovers his religion and goes back to yeshiva to study, and he is excellent and surpasses many of his peers.
Eventually, he ends up in a one-on-one with the Rebbe--and he waits with baited breath for what the great Rebbe will tell him that will guide his life--will he become a great scholar, Rabbi, shaliach, or head of a Yeshiva.
Then the Rebbe speaks, and says:
"You will be a tractor driver"
The young man is shocked and goes back to studying Torah with even more determination and harder than ever.
Once again, he comes before the Rebbe, and he is anticipating what he will say.
Again, the Rebbe looks deep into his soul and says:
"You will drive a tractor!"
Sure enough, the man now understanding that he has to meet his particular fate head on, goes back to working the Holy Land and driving the tractor.
But in so doing he is able to do outreach to tens of thousands of people who otherwise would have never had the opportunity to be brought close to Hashem through Chasidism.
The message was that we are not all destined to be clones, robots, or do the same thing in life.
The Torah is our guide to serve Hashem and do what is right.
But each of us has our own mission in serving Him and we can achieve greatness and Holiness even when we drive a tractor or do whatever we do.
I am not a Rabbi, but in my own way, I try to raise my family--be a good husband, father, and prior a good son--and also to serve with integrity and a good example in my professional and educational endeavors.
It's okay that I'm not a Chabad Rabbi doing outreach--that's not me--although I did meet someone today from my elementary school, Manhattan Day School, that did become just that and we had a nice kiddish lunch with him and caught up together after services.
I am me--and I am okay with me.
I don't have to be someone else--anyone else.
I can do good being me--and that is what I will try to do with each and every breath of every day.
Whether I drive a tractor (or this cool VW van with a big smiley face), we all serve our Maker. ;-)
(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)
I Drive The Tractor
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November 24, 2017
The Long Arm Of The Law
This bird was hilarious running into and out of the ocean waves.
Over and over again, it's little puttering feet running toward and then just escaping the water rushing to the shore.
In a way, I thought that I'd like to be as playful and happy as this little bird running and having fun in the water.
But when I showed the video to my wife, she got a different message from it.
She said, "you can't outrun the long arm of the law!"
The (jail)bird runs towards trouble, but then running away, the waves of justice invariably catch up with it.
I think with all the scandals in the news again lately from Hollywood to Washington D.C., we are all sort of stunned by the famous and hugely successful people who are now being caught up in inappropriate sex scandals and all sorts of abuse of women and men!
It's wrong that these people use their wealth, fame, and power to hurt other people, period.
There are no excuses, no lapses of judgement, especially when it seems to happen over and over again to the same people.
Put your "package" back in your pants, and behave like upright human beings and not like a bunch of wild animals.
Yes, perhaps it's one thing to be playful like the birds in the ocean waves, but it's another to be part of the list of scumbags--if true as accused--like Anthony Weiner, Harvey Weinstein, Kevin Spacey, Louis C.K., Al Franken, John Conyers, and more.
You can pay off the women with jobs and settlements, but you can't escape the rushing water of ultimate judgement for your unbridled play and tarnished souls. ;-)
(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)
The Long Arm Of The Law
November 23, 2017
Chocolate Turkey Delight
So this is the kind of dessert turkey that will sweeten your Thanksgiving dinner.
Gobs and gobs of white, milk, and dark chocolate.
And they actually shaped it all like a turkey.
Sort of cute, but also sort of sugary disgusting, no?
Generally, I'm not a huge fan of eating turkey either.
Maybe when they boil it in oil, and it's cooked through and through, it actually comes out juicy and not so bad.
But give me a nice piece of beef, and I'll be your pal forever!
A colleague who was a veterinarian and worked inspecting meat plants overseas told me some things about the cleanliness though that made my skin crawl.
"The cleanliness outside of the U.S. is WAY DIFFERENT than here!"--and not in a good way.
Even in places that do maintain clean facilities and healthy animals, the way that "they make the sausage" sounded so unappetizing.
It made me think of all those PETA and other commercials that show the chickens and other caged birds in those crowded and filthy (and diseased) conditions...even aside from the cruelty, it's enough to make you cringe.
He said they mash the meat until it's like just a pink paste that gets shot into the tubes for hot dogs and things like that.
"It looks disgusting!"
Also, they put parts of the animal in that are basically leftover meats from the head and other parts of the animal that did NOT sound desirable at all.
I'm thinking to myself...FROM THE HEAD.
Uh, no more hot dogs for me, thank you.
I think that I'll stick with a nice steak or burger or something KOSHER and palatable.
You can have your turkey and your sausage and eat it, but not me! ;-)
(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)
Gobs and gobs of white, milk, and dark chocolate.
And they actually shaped it all like a turkey.
Sort of cute, but also sort of sugary disgusting, no?
Generally, I'm not a huge fan of eating turkey either.
Maybe when they boil it in oil, and it's cooked through and through, it actually comes out juicy and not so bad.
But give me a nice piece of beef, and I'll be your pal forever!
A colleague who was a veterinarian and worked inspecting meat plants overseas told me some things about the cleanliness though that made my skin crawl.
"The cleanliness outside of the U.S. is WAY DIFFERENT than here!"--and not in a good way.
Even in places that do maintain clean facilities and healthy animals, the way that "they make the sausage" sounded so unappetizing.
It made me think of all those PETA and other commercials that show the chickens and other caged birds in those crowded and filthy (and diseased) conditions...even aside from the cruelty, it's enough to make you cringe.
He said they mash the meat until it's like just a pink paste that gets shot into the tubes for hot dogs and things like that.
"It looks disgusting!"
Also, they put parts of the animal in that are basically leftover meats from the head and other parts of the animal that did NOT sound desirable at all.
I'm thinking to myself...FROM THE HEAD.
Uh, no more hot dogs for me, thank you.
I think that I'll stick with a nice steak or burger or something KOSHER and palatable.
You can have your turkey and your sausage and eat it, but not me! ;-)
(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)
Chocolate Turkey Delight
November 22, 2017
It's About The People
The older (not that old) that I get, the more I realize that life and success is all about the people.
Whether it's our families, friends, and colleagues--it's how we treat people and the relationships we form that count--and that enable us to achieve success together!
Many people just count their money instead of counting their blessings of hearts and souls.
But while we certainly need a certain amount of $$$ to live, we really need ❤ to thrive.
Today, before the Thanksgiving holiday, I just took a little time to walk around and talk with people here, thank them for their good work and friendships, and wish them a good holiday.
It was such a little thing, but honestly I felt so good doing it.
I am thankful for so many things this year, including all the wonderful people in my life who do so much to make my life joyous and fulfilling, but I am also grateful to G-d for continuing to open my eyes to what and who(s) that really count.
(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)
Whether it's our families, friends, and colleagues--it's how we treat people and the relationships we form that count--and that enable us to achieve success together!
Many people just count their money instead of counting their blessings of hearts and souls.
But while we certainly need a certain amount of $$$ to live, we really need ❤ to thrive.
Today, before the Thanksgiving holiday, I just took a little time to walk around and talk with people here, thank them for their good work and friendships, and wish them a good holiday.
It was such a little thing, but honestly I felt so good doing it.
I am thankful for so many things this year, including all the wonderful people in my life who do so much to make my life joyous and fulfilling, but I am also grateful to G-d for continuing to open my eyes to what and who(s) that really count.
(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)
It's About The People
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November 21, 2017
We're A Bunch Of Chemicals+
So it's pretty well known that we are a combination of nature and nurture.
Nature is our genetics and our hormones--it's sort of the innate material that make up who we are.
Nurture, of course, is all those external influencers, like parents, friends, teachers, religious figures, experiences, etc.--that shape us.
In a way, it's hard to think of ourselves as a product of nature and nature, because that sort of removes our conscious free choice in the whole matter of who we are and what we do.
For example, if someone is a raging lunatic, sociopath, serial killer, because they have a brain or hormonal defect and grew up in a broken and abusive home(s), then the question is, well how can you really or fully blame them for their actions--is it really their actions?
Don't we have to ask ourselves how much control does a person have over themselves if they are physically and environmentally predisposed to be a certain way--even a very socially unacceptable and hurtful way?
This is where the courts and justice system come into play in looking at things such as whether the person is even competent to stand trial (e.g. the insanity defense) or are there mitigating circumstances to reduce the person's culpability.
I would imagine it is quite difficult to exactly judge the level of self control that a person is or should be able to exert given their individual set of nature and nurture.
And even if the person isn't fully in control of themselves, does that help the victim or their families who are still left reeling from the harm and/or loss caused to them by the perpetrator?
Yet it is uncontested that people are driven by nature and nurture, and just in today's Wall Street Journal, there was a discussion of the influence of a person's hormone levels on their personality and behavior.
- Generally, more testosterone makes a person aggressive, while more estrogen makes them sensitive.
- Similarly, dopamine makes people more energetic, while serotonin makes them more sociable.
So there is nothing inherently "wrong" with you for being a certain way...that's your makeup, but you are responsible for how you manage yourself given what you've got.
In other words, where you have lemons, you've got to make lemonade!
In a nutshell, we are truly a combination of our genetic makeup, a bunch of chemicals, some environmental molding, and the exertion of our willpower, faith, and belief in what's right and wrong.
What happens when you mix these altogether, you get you and only you! ;-)
(Source photo: here with attribution to skeeze)
Nature is our genetics and our hormones--it's sort of the innate material that make up who we are.
Nurture, of course, is all those external influencers, like parents, friends, teachers, religious figures, experiences, etc.--that shape us.
In a way, it's hard to think of ourselves as a product of nature and nature, because that sort of removes our conscious free choice in the whole matter of who we are and what we do.
For example, if someone is a raging lunatic, sociopath, serial killer, because they have a brain or hormonal defect and grew up in a broken and abusive home(s), then the question is, well how can you really or fully blame them for their actions--is it really their actions?
Don't we have to ask ourselves how much control does a person have over themselves if they are physically and environmentally predisposed to be a certain way--even a very socially unacceptable and hurtful way?
This is where the courts and justice system come into play in looking at things such as whether the person is even competent to stand trial (e.g. the insanity defense) or are there mitigating circumstances to reduce the person's culpability.
I would imagine it is quite difficult to exactly judge the level of self control that a person is or should be able to exert given their individual set of nature and nurture.
And even if the person isn't fully in control of themselves, does that help the victim or their families who are still left reeling from the harm and/or loss caused to them by the perpetrator?
Yet it is uncontested that people are driven by nature and nurture, and just in today's Wall Street Journal, there was a discussion of the influence of a person's hormone levels on their personality and behavior.
- Generally, more testosterone makes a person aggressive, while more estrogen makes them sensitive.
- Similarly, dopamine makes people more energetic, while serotonin makes them more sociable.
So there is nothing inherently "wrong" with you for being a certain way...that's your makeup, but you are responsible for how you manage yourself given what you've got.
In other words, where you have lemons, you've got to make lemonade!
In a nutshell, we are truly a combination of our genetic makeup, a bunch of chemicals, some environmental molding, and the exertion of our willpower, faith, and belief in what's right and wrong.
What happens when you mix these altogether, you get you and only you! ;-)
(Source photo: here with attribution to skeeze)
We're A Bunch Of Chemicals+
November 20, 2017
Hammer and Nail
Often, we have a one size fits all orientation to life.
We try to solve fresh daily problems, yet everything we are going through is seen through our preset filters and mindsets.
In many cases, we are simply and undeniably biased, mistakenly believing that what worked in the past or for particular challenges will always work in the future and for all our problems.
We stereotype people and races and see them as either "the good guys" or "the bad guys"--but there's no grey in there to further differentiate.
Also, we work in a comfortable zone of blind routine thinking that we wish it's all as simple as wash, rinse, and repeat.
But while some die-hard habits and lessons learned in life are very valuable and should be mentally recorded and referenced, seeing life through a single, or even a few handy-dandy, filters can prove disastrous when things or times change.
For example, one big criticism of our dealing in Washington is that:
Instead, if we evaluate the nuances of each person and particular situation, we can work to get a more detailed evaluation, and potentially be able to fine-tune approaches for what needs to be done, and how, with each and every one, accordingly.
Chucking a batman belt approach to just using whatever tools are immediately available, can facilitate a broader and more creative approach to problem-solving.
Sure, to a certain degree, we are creatures of habit--and we intuitively rely on what's worked in the past, and reject and shun what hasn't--but past experiences do not necessarily foretell future successes.
If we don't stay agile and resilient, we can easily get blown away by the situation or the competition.
There is always a new challenge to test us and someone coming up who may be better, faster, or stronger that wants to try and take us on or down.
A shotgun approach, in lieu of a more precise surgical strike, can result in a lot of collateral damage and maybe even missing the mark altogether.
Think, think, think.
Focus on what needs to get done--apply lessons learned as applicable, but also look for new sources and methods to build a bigger and more versatile tool chest.
In the walking dead, a hammer to the head works fairly well on all Zombies, but sometimes there are too many zombies in the hoard or even more dangerous living people and situations to attend to. ;-)
(Source Photo: here with attribution to stevepb)
"To a hammer, everything looks like a nail."
We try to solve fresh daily problems, yet everything we are going through is seen through our preset filters and mindsets.
In many cases, we are simply and undeniably biased, mistakenly believing that what worked in the past or for particular challenges will always work in the future and for all our problems.
We stereotype people and races and see them as either "the good guys" or "the bad guys"--but there's no grey in there to further differentiate.
Also, we work in a comfortable zone of blind routine thinking that we wish it's all as simple as wash, rinse, and repeat.
But while some die-hard habits and lessons learned in life are very valuable and should be mentally recorded and referenced, seeing life through a single, or even a few handy-dandy, filters can prove disastrous when things or times change.
For example, one big criticism of our dealing in Washington is that:
"Politicians, like generals, have a tendency to fight the last war."
Instead, if we evaluate the nuances of each person and particular situation, we can work to get a more detailed evaluation, and potentially be able to fine-tune approaches for what needs to be done, and how, with each and every one, accordingly.
Chucking a batman belt approach to just using whatever tools are immediately available, can facilitate a broader and more creative approach to problem-solving.
Sure, to a certain degree, we are creatures of habit--and we intuitively rely on what's worked in the past, and reject and shun what hasn't--but past experiences do not necessarily foretell future successes.
If we don't stay agile and resilient, we can easily get blown away by the situation or the competition.
There is always a new challenge to test us and someone coming up who may be better, faster, or stronger that wants to try and take us on or down.
A shotgun approach, in lieu of a more precise surgical strike, can result in a lot of collateral damage and maybe even missing the mark altogether.
Think, think, think.
Focus on what needs to get done--apply lessons learned as applicable, but also look for new sources and methods to build a bigger and more versatile tool chest.
In the walking dead, a hammer to the head works fairly well on all Zombies, but sometimes there are too many zombies in the hoard or even more dangerous living people and situations to attend to. ;-)
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November 19, 2017
White Lie, Black Truth
No this is not another civil or human rights post, although I like writing those as well.
Rather, this is about how we use our words to help and not hurt others.
Yes, we all know that it's wrong to lie (it's even in the 10 Commandments).
Except, of course, when we need to tell a "white lie" in order to keep someone's feelings from getting hurt.
For example, I may not like your new haircut, but when you ask me glowingly what I think, instead of telling you how it's too short or whatever, I tell you, "Yeah, it looks great!"
Then, there is the "black truth."
That's when we swallow hard and tell the truth to someone, even though it may hurt their feelings, it's ultimately for their good.
For example, your child may be going of course with their lives, and while you don't want to hurt their feelings, you know you need to tell them the truth in order to help them course-correct.
Telling lies or truth can be hurtful to people, but a white lie isn't really bad, because it's used to protect someone's feeling, the black truth, is also not so dark and foreboding, because there are times when you need to get past the superficial, be real with someone, and tell them the hard truth in order to help them in a very practical sense.
That's one of life's most difficult lessons, that not everything is black or white. ;-)
(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)
Rather, this is about how we use our words to help and not hurt others.
"White Lie,
Black Truth"
Yes, we all know that it's wrong to lie (it's even in the 10 Commandments).
Except, of course, when we need to tell a "white lie" in order to keep someone's feelings from getting hurt.
For example, I may not like your new haircut, but when you ask me glowingly what I think, instead of telling you how it's too short or whatever, I tell you, "Yeah, it looks great!"
Then, there is the "black truth."
That's when we swallow hard and tell the truth to someone, even though it may hurt their feelings, it's ultimately for their good.
For example, your child may be going of course with their lives, and while you don't want to hurt their feelings, you know you need to tell them the truth in order to help them course-correct.
Telling lies or truth can be hurtful to people, but a white lie isn't really bad, because it's used to protect someone's feeling, the black truth, is also not so dark and foreboding, because there are times when you need to get past the superficial, be real with someone, and tell them the hard truth in order to help them in a very practical sense.
That's one of life's most difficult lessons, that not everything is black or white. ;-)
(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)
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November 18, 2017
Invasion of Dinosaurs
So what's with the invasion of dinosaurs.
First one is standing next to the checkout line in Whole Foods in Maryland.
Second one is actually on someone's terrace overlooking the beach in Fort Lauderdale.
Third one is the real McCoy from the Museum of Natural History in Washington, D.C.
Certainly, dinosaurs aren't cute and cuddly--even the plush ones from Whole Foods--they'd eat you and I for dinner if they could!
So why do we gravitate to relics from the Ice Age past?
Perhaps, just like looking forward to Aliens from outer space, the dinosaurs represent an important historical link for us, and thus anchor us in a much larger perspective of time and space.
In a way, it all points to the dichotomy between us as humans with great--almost endless--potential, and yet at the same time, how small we are relative to the enormous dinosaurs that roamed the earth of yesteryear as well as the distinct possibility of mighty extraterrestrials that we may someday (soon) encounter from outer space.
From this context, I guess what's really amazing is that we, as a people, are still here!
Despite our bad habits and unsustainable living, we continue to innovate our way out of own messes of greed, conflict, contagion, pollution, and resource depletion, and create a future far beyond what destroyed our predecessors or even what may come from current or potential future foes.
Like the economy, we think we can grow ourselves out of all our troubles--and who knows, maybe we can if we can continue to stay at least one or two steps ahead of all the challenges and threats--but, at the back (or front) of our minds is what if we can't or don't? ;-)
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November 17, 2017
A Future Beyond Fear
This is my spin on a Jack Canfield saying, but I like it this way:
And there is plenty of fear of failure and not being able to do what we need to do.
But the only way to get there is to get past the fear!
You need to look straight ahead into the future of what you want.
And you need to overcome your worst fear...that you're not good enough, you're not smart enough, you're not strong enough, and you're not beautiful enough.
...and the gnawing feeling inside that you can't do it.
This is precisely when you need to center yourself, strengthen yourself, and pray for G-d's help.
Whether to get over it, under it, or through it.
The future--your future--is on the other side of that fear--that fear that is holding you back.
No, you're not stupid, ugly, weak, or unworthy.
Yes, you're a child of the G-d on the most high.
So you can reach deep and reach high to accomplish your mission in life.
You can truly leap over mountains and even reach for the stars.
No, it's not beyond you.
It's right in front of you.
Take that deep breath, clench your fist, gird you sword, and ready yourself in every way.
The fear holding you back is yours to conquer.
And the future is yours to be had. ;-)
(Inspired by my wife, Dannielle Blumenthal)
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"The future is on the other side of fear."Sometimes we feel hemmed in or torn down by life.
And there is plenty of fear of failure and not being able to do what we need to do.
But the only way to get there is to get past the fear!
You need to look straight ahead into the future of what you want.
And you need to overcome your worst fear...that you're not good enough, you're not smart enough, you're not strong enough, and you're not beautiful enough.
...and the gnawing feeling inside that you can't do it.
This is precisely when you need to center yourself, strengthen yourself, and pray for G-d's help.
Whether to get over it, under it, or through it.
The future--your future--is on the other side of that fear--that fear that is holding you back.
No, you're not stupid, ugly, weak, or unworthy.
Yes, you're a child of the G-d on the most high.
So you can reach deep and reach high to accomplish your mission in life.
You can truly leap over mountains and even reach for the stars.
No, it's not beyond you.
It's right in front of you.
Take that deep breath, clench your fist, gird you sword, and ready yourself in every way.
The fear holding you back is yours to conquer.
And the future is yours to be had. ;-)
(Inspired by my wife, Dannielle Blumenthal)
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November 16, 2017
The Folly of Bullies
So there is an issue with people not treating other people with respect and dignity in life and at work.
Today again, the Wall Street Journal reported that "Companies Wake Up To The Problem of Bullies at Work."
This is leading some organizations to issue "Codes of Civility" for people to act like mensches and treat each other nicely.
Adults are just so like children--with work bullies not all that different from schoolyard bullies.
Why do people need to elevate themselves on the backs of others?
Isn't it better to join hands and work together as brothers for the betterment of all.
Bullying anyone at work or at home doesn't benefit anyone, including the bully!
I read today in Psalms 37: 35-36:
"I have seen the wicked in great power and spreading himself like a green tree. Yet he passed away, and behold, he was not; I sought him, but he could not be found.
[But] Mark the perfect man, and behold the upright for the end of that man is peace."How can people forget that the true "big boss" is G-d Almighty in Heaven.
And He judges us for a good or not so good end.
We are all just flesh and blood and we all answer to the One That Was, Is, and Will Always Be!
Isn't it obvious that we're here to learn to act with lovingkindness to one another.
All are imperfect, but treating each other well is how we get closer to G-dly perfection. ;-)
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November 15, 2017
Body Morphic Disorder
So often you hear about people with Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD).
This is a psychiatric disorder where people are obsessed with their real or perceived body flaws.
Often their notions of a physical flaw is widely exaggerated like someone who has a barely noticeable mole, but they see it as a major blotch on their skin that everyone must be staring at and repulsed by.
People with this disorder may often stand in front of the mirror starring at themselves obsessing over these minor imperfections.
But there is something major that is missing here.
And it is the polar opposite of BDD.
I would call it the Body Morphic Disorder (BMD).
My notion of BMD is where people are similarly obsessed with their bodies, but rather than real or perceived flaws, they are focused on real or perceived notions of their body's beauty and perfection!
Instead of looking in the mirror and perceiving problems and feeling self-loathsome, these people are excessively vain and see themselves as a (near) perfect specimen of a human being.
"Mirror, mirror on the wall, who's the fairest of them all?"
Or the equivalent of ain't I just grand!
It's funny-weird that we perceive criticism and self-contempt (BDD) as a psychiatric disorder, but we don't generally see narcissistic self-worship as a personality disorder!
Yet any extreme is a bad thing.
Excessive loving or hating of your physical self--is the kiss of death when it comes to seeing things the way they really are and being a genuine human being. ;-)
(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)
This is a psychiatric disorder where people are obsessed with their real or perceived body flaws.
Often their notions of a physical flaw is widely exaggerated like someone who has a barely noticeable mole, but they see it as a major blotch on their skin that everyone must be staring at and repulsed by.
People with this disorder may often stand in front of the mirror starring at themselves obsessing over these minor imperfections.
But there is something major that is missing here.
And it is the polar opposite of BDD.
I would call it the Body Morphic Disorder (BMD).
My notion of BMD is where people are similarly obsessed with their bodies, but rather than real or perceived flaws, they are focused on real or perceived notions of their body's beauty and perfection!
Instead of looking in the mirror and perceiving problems and feeling self-loathsome, these people are excessively vain and see themselves as a (near) perfect specimen of a human being.
"Mirror, mirror on the wall, who's the fairest of them all?"
Or the equivalent of ain't I just grand!
It's funny-weird that we perceive criticism and self-contempt (BDD) as a psychiatric disorder, but we don't generally see narcissistic self-worship as a personality disorder!
Yet any extreme is a bad thing.
Excessive loving or hating of your physical self--is the kiss of death when it comes to seeing things the way they really are and being a genuine human being. ;-)
(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)
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November 14, 2017
Wrapped In Bubble Wrap
So I thought this was an interesting risk management strategy...
One colleague joked with me that:
Reminded me of that game where people put on big wearable inflatable bumpers and then smash into each other for fun.
The problem though is that sometimes we put on the bubble wrap, bulletproof vest, or seat belt, but then we get stupidly overconfident.
We think we are protected, but nothing human in impenetrable.
So the person with the seat belt and air bag drives too fast and off a cliff and still gets him/herself killed.
Or the person with the bulletproof vest gets shot with a high caliber armor piercing shell or in the back of the head.
Like on many cars, where the mirror says, "objects in mirror are closer than they appear," we need not over rely on safety, protective, and risk measures and still do stupid things.
One guy told me, he backed up into the wall in the garage, because he thought there was more room and that's not how things looked in the mirror.
Let's face it, there is no bubble wrap that can fully protect us from life.
Everyday we face risks out there, and we need to manage them with common sense or else... ;-)
(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)
One colleague joked with me that:
"Everyone should just wrap themselves in bubble wrap!"
Reminded me of that game where people put on big wearable inflatable bumpers and then smash into each other for fun.
The problem though is that sometimes we put on the bubble wrap, bulletproof vest, or seat belt, but then we get stupidly overconfident.
We think we are protected, but nothing human in impenetrable.
So the person with the seat belt and air bag drives too fast and off a cliff and still gets him/herself killed.
Or the person with the bulletproof vest gets shot with a high caliber armor piercing shell or in the back of the head.
Like on many cars, where the mirror says, "objects in mirror are closer than they appear," we need not over rely on safety, protective, and risk measures and still do stupid things.
One guy told me, he backed up into the wall in the garage, because he thought there was more room and that's not how things looked in the mirror.
Let's face it, there is no bubble wrap that can fully protect us from life.
Everyday we face risks out there, and we need to manage them with common sense or else... ;-)
(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)
Wrapped In Bubble Wrap
November 13, 2017
Inspiring Greatness
I thought this was inspirational.
Muhammad Ali believing that he's the greatest boxer.
And the child sitting in front with these huge red boxing gloves on--presumably dreaming about becoming the next Muhammad Ali!
The butterfly sitting on the boxing gloves in front of the child adds an interesting dimension, where the child dreams of developing into the "next great one," just like a butterfly morphs from a caterpillar into a beautiful flying creatures with colorful and expansive wings.
This child wants to fly and soar to greatness like Muhammad Ali did.
We all need an inspiration that has overcome adversity to make it against all odds.
For me, this inspiration was Rocky who rose from the streets to become a fighter and winner not only in the ring, but in life as a person of integrity and a mensch.
If we dream it, it can be--with G-d's blessing and plenty of hard work. ;-)
(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)
Muhammad Ali believing that he's the greatest boxer.
And the child sitting in front with these huge red boxing gloves on--presumably dreaming about becoming the next Muhammad Ali!
The butterfly sitting on the boxing gloves in front of the child adds an interesting dimension, where the child dreams of developing into the "next great one," just like a butterfly morphs from a caterpillar into a beautiful flying creatures with colorful and expansive wings.
This child wants to fly and soar to greatness like Muhammad Ali did.
We all need an inspiration that has overcome adversity to make it against all odds.
For me, this inspiration was Rocky who rose from the streets to become a fighter and winner not only in the ring, but in life as a person of integrity and a mensch.
If we dream it, it can be--with G-d's blessing and plenty of hard work. ;-)
(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)
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November 12, 2017
Potty Mouth Award
So I had to laugh when I saw this Potty Mouth "work of art" award.
And it had a real potty in it too!
It reminded me of some foul-mouthed, but fun-spirited colleagues who actually used to keep a scorecard in the office with tick marks for each occurrence of cursing by person.
Let's just say that there were some clear winners on this account.
In many cases, they did it as a vent for all the frustration at work and also because they thought it was funny.
I remember my dad who was very religious and he used to say jokingly and with a big smile:
Growing up as a Jewish kid even from the Bronx, it was never really an issue for us.
Although even I have to admit that sometimes hearing someone get really angry and spewing off like that--while not appropriate, it does let you know where their head is at--at least for that moment in potty time. ;-)
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And it had a real potty in it too!
It reminded me of some foul-mouthed, but fun-spirited colleagues who actually used to keep a scorecard in the office with tick marks for each occurrence of cursing by person.
Let's just say that there were some clear winners on this account.
In many cases, they did it as a vent for all the frustration at work and also because they thought it was funny.
I remember my dad who was very religious and he used to say jokingly and with a big smile:
"Don't use that f*ckin language with me!"
Growing up as a Jewish kid even from the Bronx, it was never really an issue for us.
Although even I have to admit that sometimes hearing someone get really angry and spewing off like that--while not appropriate, it does let you know where their head is at--at least for that moment in potty time. ;-)
(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)
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November 11, 2017
The Fine Line Between Fantasy and Reality
So I've started to realize that there are at times a (very) thin line between fantasy and reality.
In some cases, people hear some facts or some truth, and then in their mind, they concoct entire stories of fantasy or full-fledged conspiracy around it.
But more than that, the fantasy in their minds, because it starts with a real fact or two then becomes entirely perceived as reality itself.
We saw plenty of this in the last election cycle and even today, with one political side or the other purchasing phony dossiers or making up stories about the opposition--and they may even have some underlying facts associated with it.
But around these facts, entire scripts and stories are concocted through inductive reasoning or highly imaginative thinking, whether for example, of deep Russian conspiracies reminiscent of the era of McCarthyism or the Salem Witch Trails of yesteryear.
Again, I'm not saying that nothing is there, but the question is whether there is real truth then to the whole conspiracy that has been drawn from fantastical minds of opposition agents, reporters, and others gainfully benefiting and perhaps running amuck with these grandiose versions of alternate reality?
What I am coming to believe is that it's not so much that people are willfully making up these stories (although there can certainly be plenty of biases, exaggerations, and agendas at work as well), but that in their mind, they create these bombastic versions of what seems like truth to them and then they pawn it off and sell it to others who are only to happy to latch unto some juicy new gossip or theory of "what's really going on."
Similarly, some people who get very mad may actually take albeit a genuine fight with another person and pour layer upon layer of evil doings and manipulations on them until by the time their mind is done, the other person has become the devil themselves--and the fantasy for a short time seems like it is the reality--until such time that cooler heads prevail and reality replaces the mind's fantasy or it's ultimate fears.
In short, there is a very fine line between fantasy and reality--our minds can get carried away with facts or notions of the moment and build those into full-fledged conspiracy theories of "who done it" and "why didn't we see it all along."
Certainly, this doesn't mean that there aren't some very good pretenders out there who truly are doing very bad things and covering their tracks, and it's for the gifted and detective minds out there to perceive those and prove them as being the greater reality.
But we have to be careful in accusing people--until such time that the facts are all there and the perception or fantasy of our mind's eye is shown to be the reality indeed.
We need good investigative journalism, excellent law enforcement and intelligence, and clarity of mind to know what's real and what's fake in life and in our fantastical minds. ;-)
(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)
In some cases, people hear some facts or some truth, and then in their mind, they concoct entire stories of fantasy or full-fledged conspiracy around it.
But more than that, the fantasy in their minds, because it starts with a real fact or two then becomes entirely perceived as reality itself.
We saw plenty of this in the last election cycle and even today, with one political side or the other purchasing phony dossiers or making up stories about the opposition--and they may even have some underlying facts associated with it.
But around these facts, entire scripts and stories are concocted through inductive reasoning or highly imaginative thinking, whether for example, of deep Russian conspiracies reminiscent of the era of McCarthyism or the Salem Witch Trails of yesteryear.
Again, I'm not saying that nothing is there, but the question is whether there is real truth then to the whole conspiracy that has been drawn from fantastical minds of opposition agents, reporters, and others gainfully benefiting and perhaps running amuck with these grandiose versions of alternate reality?
What I am coming to believe is that it's not so much that people are willfully making up these stories (although there can certainly be plenty of biases, exaggerations, and agendas at work as well), but that in their mind, they create these bombastic versions of what seems like truth to them and then they pawn it off and sell it to others who are only to happy to latch unto some juicy new gossip or theory of "what's really going on."
Similarly, some people who get very mad may actually take albeit a genuine fight with another person and pour layer upon layer of evil doings and manipulations on them until by the time their mind is done, the other person has become the devil themselves--and the fantasy for a short time seems like it is the reality--until such time that cooler heads prevail and reality replaces the mind's fantasy or it's ultimate fears.
In short, there is a very fine line between fantasy and reality--our minds can get carried away with facts or notions of the moment and build those into full-fledged conspiracy theories of "who done it" and "why didn't we see it all along."
Certainly, this doesn't mean that there aren't some very good pretenders out there who truly are doing very bad things and covering their tracks, and it's for the gifted and detective minds out there to perceive those and prove them as being the greater reality.
But we have to be careful in accusing people--until such time that the facts are all there and the perception or fantasy of our mind's eye is shown to be the reality indeed.
We need good investigative journalism, excellent law enforcement and intelligence, and clarity of mind to know what's real and what's fake in life and in our fantastical minds. ;-)
(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)
The Fine Line Between Fantasy and Reality
November 10, 2017
Mechanisms for Coping With Stress
Just reflecting on the day off today on helpful ways for being resilient and coping with day-to-day stress.
1. Teamwork - Remember you're not alone and you can rely on your colleagues/teammates at work and your family/friends at home to work with you, help you, and also be a support. Together, when you distribute the weight, the load is lighter and more manageable for everyone doing the lifting!
2. Work-Life Balance - Listen, all work and no play is good for no one. When you create a healthy balance in your own life--professional, emotional, intellectual, social, physical, and spiritual--then you will be more balanced, holistic, and better able to manage the ups and downs in any one or more areas of your life. The whole of you is larger than the sum of the parts!
3. Perspective - You've got to maintain a healthy perspective and attitude in life. All is not doom and gloom. Not every setback is catastrophic. There is good and bad in everything. And we need to use the challenges in life as learning and growth opportunities. Also, remember that there are many others in even worse shoes than us and their fortitude and seeing it through can be an inspiration to us. At the end of the day, look at the bright side--we all have so much to be grateful for, and every moment of life is a blessing!
4. Sense of Humor - When all else fails, a sense of humor can sometimes be the savings grace of the moment. When you're looking out over the abyss and you are seeing things dark and maybe quite ugly...perhaps, you can find in yourself, in others, or from a moment in time, something ridiculous or absurdly funny to think back on and laugh to yourself a good, strong, and healthy laugh!
5. Faith - No matter what...G-d is always there for you. Always watching. Always guiding. Always caring and loving you. You can have faith that whatever He does for you is ultimately for your best. The G-d of your forefathers/mothers, the G-d who created you, the G-d who sustains you every moment of every day will not abandon you in your time of need. If you have faith, He will protect and save you and after your amazing life's journey eventually comes to an end, He will bring you home to reunite with Him!
On my Bar-Mitzvah, now many years ago, my father gave a speech and he said to me from the prayers, be strong and remember:
"The L-rd is with me, I will not fear!" (or in Hebrew "Adonai li v'lo ira")
(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)
1. Teamwork - Remember you're not alone and you can rely on your colleagues/teammates at work and your family/friends at home to work with you, help you, and also be a support. Together, when you distribute the weight, the load is lighter and more manageable for everyone doing the lifting!
2. Work-Life Balance - Listen, all work and no play is good for no one. When you create a healthy balance in your own life--professional, emotional, intellectual, social, physical, and spiritual--then you will be more balanced, holistic, and better able to manage the ups and downs in any one or more areas of your life. The whole of you is larger than the sum of the parts!
3. Perspective - You've got to maintain a healthy perspective and attitude in life. All is not doom and gloom. Not every setback is catastrophic. There is good and bad in everything. And we need to use the challenges in life as learning and growth opportunities. Also, remember that there are many others in even worse shoes than us and their fortitude and seeing it through can be an inspiration to us. At the end of the day, look at the bright side--we all have so much to be grateful for, and every moment of life is a blessing!
4. Sense of Humor - When all else fails, a sense of humor can sometimes be the savings grace of the moment. When you're looking out over the abyss and you are seeing things dark and maybe quite ugly...perhaps, you can find in yourself, in others, or from a moment in time, something ridiculous or absurdly funny to think back on and laugh to yourself a good, strong, and healthy laugh!
5. Faith - No matter what...G-d is always there for you. Always watching. Always guiding. Always caring and loving you. You can have faith that whatever He does for you is ultimately for your best. The G-d of your forefathers/mothers, the G-d who created you, the G-d who sustains you every moment of every day will not abandon you in your time of need. If you have faith, He will protect and save you and after your amazing life's journey eventually comes to an end, He will bring you home to reunite with Him!
On my Bar-Mitzvah, now many years ago, my father gave a speech and he said to me from the prayers, be strong and remember:
"The L-rd is with me, I will not fear!" (or in Hebrew "Adonai li v'lo ira")
(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)
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November 9, 2017
Couple Arguing Loudly About Sex and Pregnancy On The DC Metro {Funny}
This couple is arguing loudly in front of everyone on the Metro in Washington, D.C.
She claims the coming baby is his, and that he needs to take a paternity test.
He says it's impossible that it's his because she's 3 months pregnant and they haven't had sex in 5 months!
This goes on and on in a most hilarious and boisterous way, and they even try and involve some of the innocent bystanders on the train.
Always a show in this crazy town and it's not just the politics! ;-)
(Source Video: Andy Blumenthal)
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November 8, 2017
It's All In The Interpretation
So a friend sent me this hilarious spoof about automatic transmissions, and it goes something like this...
A guy calls up the car service hotline and asks for help with his car.
What's the matter?
Well the car works perfectly in the daytime, but it refuses to drive at night.
The lady on the customer service line is baffled.
Then he explains:
- During the daytime, I just put the car into "daytime" (D) mode, and it drives fine.
- But then at night, I put it into the "nighttime" (N) mode, and it doesn't move.
- What's worse yet, when another car tried to jump ahead of him, he puts the transmission into "race" (R) mode, and he ends up hitting the car behind him!
At this point, the customer service representative is completely cracking up laughing.
Apparently not everyone has the same notion of "drive" (D), "neutral" (N), and "reverse" (R)--and frankly, maybe we shouldn't take so much in life for granted. ;-)
(Source Photo: here with attribution to AliExpress)
A guy calls up the car service hotline and asks for help with his car.
What's the matter?
Well the car works perfectly in the daytime, but it refuses to drive at night.
The lady on the customer service line is baffled.
Then he explains:
- During the daytime, I just put the car into "daytime" (D) mode, and it drives fine.
- But then at night, I put it into the "nighttime" (N) mode, and it doesn't move.
- What's worse yet, when another car tried to jump ahead of him, he puts the transmission into "race" (R) mode, and he ends up hitting the car behind him!
At this point, the customer service representative is completely cracking up laughing.
Apparently not everyone has the same notion of "drive" (D), "neutral" (N), and "reverse" (R)--and frankly, maybe we shouldn't take so much in life for granted. ;-)
(Source Photo: here with attribution to AliExpress)
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November 7, 2017
Sometimes We Get Surprised
Sometimes we get surprised in life.
Now of course, the surprise can be good or not so good.
One person told me this funny story about how they were in the bathroom and they reached for the toothpaste.
They put it on their toothbrush and proceeded to brush their teeth.
All of a sudden though, they realized that something didn't taste quite right.
Lo and behold, they see that they had accidentally put Desitin (diaper rash ointment) on their toothbrush.
Yikes, that was nasty indeed (at least no mouth sores after that)!
But surprises, even when not so good, can be a wake up call.
In this case, you better be more careful what the heck in put in your mouth.
And more generally-speaking, we need to pay attention to what we're doing--be deliberate, plan, and adjust accordingly.
I remember early in my career, one supervisor telling me, "I don't like surprises!"
Yeah, unless it's winning the Powerball lottery jackpot or something like that, what surprises are usually all that great anyway?
Sure, I like a my share of adventure, novelty, fun, and challenge in life, but also I'll take a mouthful of tranquility mixed with some incremental progressive learning and growth over Desitin on my toothbrush any day of the week. ;-)
(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)
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