It's easy to criticize, but tough to come up with real solutions.
Criticizing someone else, does not usually provoke a good response.
UNLESS, you can provide a bona fide better alternative in a loving way.
It's important to solve problems and not just create new ones.
Criticizing without an alternative just causes anxiety and frustration in the other person.
But when you says something isn't right and why, and provide a better alternative, now the other person can see concretely what you are talking about, and they know they have options and that you are trying to help.
No one wants to be told they are no good or their choices are no good.
But people don't mind and perhaps may even embrace being told that there is even something better for them out there.
Don't criticize, instead give alternatives that are good for the other person.
That's real love without being a jerk. ;-)
(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)
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