My daughter went to a cool work seminar yesterday on emotional intelligence and she told me five important takeaways for creating EI health:
4. Effective relationships
Certainly, exerting self-control and working effectively with others is sort of obvious.
But it is not necessarily easy for everyone to do.
Reflecting on this, some people seem to need no microphone or megaphone.
They can't get off the elevating soapbox and behave instead is as if they are the whole show onto themselves.
Enjoying to talk alone or above everyone else, maneuvering with drama and theatrics, and being cemented squarely in that center stage.
Perhaps highly intelligent about the subject matter, but often quite low on emotional intelligence.
Seeing neither the objective nor the team, unable to recognize and respect others or to listen to alternate points of view, it may go on for quite some time before they come up for air.
Overly extroverted, oblivious, uncaring, or perhaps needy or narcissistic.
Seeming to say, "I was created and stand in the center of the universe and all revolves around me!"
Chasing honor and dismissive as to their way or the highway--threats lurk, right or wrong.
This is definitely a job for self-improvement and to personal advancement.
Can EI be learned?
Perhaps if the person can stop for a sec and just listen and be humbly part of the human race. ;-)
(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)