I thought this was really fascinating about how we interact with others.
It's a theory by Martin Buber called the I-Thou relationship.
In every relationship, there are really 6 people in the room:
- Who I am.
- Who I want to be.
- Who I am perceived as.
- Who they are.
- Who they want to be.
- Who they are perceived as.
Taking about a break between reality, fantasy, and perception.
Is it any wonder that there are so many communication breakdowns and relationship disappointments.
We need to coalesce around a unified persona of I and thou--and if we don't know, perhaps we need to ask for clarification.
We don't want to talk past each other.
We want to talk to and work with each other.
I am me and you are you. ;-)
(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)