A misfit is someone who doesn't fit in.
He/she is missing the mark in terms of the thing or group they are trying to fit into.
The opposite of missing the target is hitting the target, hence a "hitfit" (my term)--someone who is in congruence with who he/she is and what they can do well.
At times, we are all misfits--at work, school, places of worship, and even with family and friends--the personality, chemistry, and KSA (knowledge, skills, or abilities) are just not right.
Hence, people miserably fail in one environment or set of circumstance, but yet they thrive in others.
What happens when you're the misfit?
- You feel like you've been relegated to moron status, sitting in a corner or closet somewhere (and now envision the dunce cap on your head).
- Essentailly everyone else seems to be meshing and doing great, but you're the odd man out. Nothing you seem to do is right, you can't perform or you just stop trying, and you feel like a worthless sh*t!
But then what happens?
- With courage, determination, and hard work, you pull yourself up by your trousers and you make a significant change in your life--your job, school, community, even your spouse or friends--you're the shinning star that you always knew or hoped you could be--you're the hitfit!
I've seen this happen again and again with people.
So often people are not "bad," "stupid," or "losers"--they are just not in their groove for who they are.
If you give people a chance to find themselves and leverage their strengths,. and strengthen (or challenge) their weaknesses, they can and will do superbly!
None of us are perfect (except G-d)--we are all frail human beings, even the strongest, smartest, fastest, and greatest among us. If you're put or find yourself in a bad situation--recognize your part in it, but also understand that sometimes it's just a misfit, and time to make a positive change in life.
Do you research, test the waters, get primed, and find your hitfit and your happiness--you can do it, with G-d's help, everyone can! ;-)
(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)